10 STEPS TO BEING A DECISIVE PERSON

10 STEPS TO BEING A DECISIVE PERSON

I have to admit, this wasn't easy to write on mainly because I'm still working on it myself. But here, I'll give you the steps I use to better myself, and I know it'll benefit you as well.

A Decisive Person. Being a decisive person means you are able to make choices that determine the close or distant future quickly and firmly. Everybody loves a decisive guy, he makes the right decisions for himself and sometimes others, regardless of the outcome and if you are reading this, its either you have issues with being decisive or you just want to increase my link-clicks (if it's the latter, thanks a lot). Or you may even be a decisive guy, but you want to see if there is any tip here that will help you. Not to worry, we have something for everyone here.

Like I said, I'll give you the 10 steps I use daily to train myself to be a decisive person. If that sounds interesting, vamonos.

1. Be Prepared: This basically means training your mind to make good decisions on the spot. It includes making quick small choices that may or may not lead to big rewards. It may be a build-up decision like sacrificing sleep in the night to study for the licensure exams to be a registered Architect or just deciding what you are going to eat for dinner. They both are decisions, but one is a build-up for the future.

2. Overcome your Fears: Fear plays a huge role in indecisiveness. Being afraid you'd make the wrong decision or being afraid of even making a decision at all. I know, we've all been there, it happens to the best of us. Overcoming the fear and having the 'cojones' to make a decision is a very big step in the right direction.

3. Stop analyzing and overthinking: This just increases your self-doubt and talks you out of the decision making. Take, for instance, you see a girl you like and want to talk to. Instead of you to clear all thoughts and walk up to her, questions like "am I well dressed?" , "what will I even say?", "Does my breath stink?", "what if she rejects me?" will start popping up in your head which will eventually make your "Future wife" pass you by. Haha, it has also happened to me too, sometimes tho. 

4. Set a Bold but Achievable Goal: Setting a goal like "you going to the gym and getting a good 1-hour workout" is a Good an Achievable goal. But a goal like"going to the gym, spending 20 hours there and expecting to come out with your dream body" is bold, but let's face it, isn't achievable. I'm not against having dreams larger than life, but at least let it be achievable, so you won't get disappointed along the way, and then give up.

5. Set Priorities: Setting your priorities right help a great deal in decision making. Look at it this way; You are one job interview away from getting your dream job, you go out partying in celebration of your dream just about to come through, you get drunk, pass out and go to your interview the next morning hungover, then that now cost you your dream job. Misplaced priorities.

6. Get as much information on the matter as possible: Let’s say you are offered admission into your top two schools, you'll want to find out all you can about the two schools, list their Pros and Cons and compare them with each other before making your final decision.

 7. Visualize all possible outcomes: You are about to make an important decision, In your head, list out every possible outcome you think it will turn out, and pick your best bet. For instance, you want to walk up to a girl in the mall, there are only two ways this can turn out (unless she is a serial killer and shoots you in the head, jk)

Outcome 1: The conversation flows easily, you get her number and possibly even set up a date. (Then you guys get married and ride off in your limo, jk) Jackpot!

Outcome 2: The convo does not go as planned shd she rejects you and maybe has a boyfriend. Painful, but you move on because you have nothing to lose.

The first outcome is more rewarding than the second outcome, so you go for it.

8. Be brave in front of your decisions: Now, you've finally made your decision. At this stage, I want you to stand by your decision and take all responsibility whether or not it was the perfect decision, as long as it was right and it was made by you, nothing else matters.

9. Limit the effects of the opinions of your family and friends: This is hard to say as this is the one I'm having the hardest time with. Family and friends are quite necessary and important and you can't go far without them, but let's be honest, they are extremely judgmental, and that is the last thing we need right now. I have made so many decisions in my life without consulting my family they only knew about them when I was either deep or already done with it. Including the creation of this blog. They eventually stumbled on me preparing a blog post, so the truth was revealed when I was already in too deep. We come to you to influence our decision and offer pieces of advice but you make sentences starting with "hmm, how on earth can you not..." or "you of all people is..." please, we did not ask for that type of energy. Try as much as possible to limit the effect THAT has on you.

10. Move on and dwell in the present: Regardless of the outcome of your decision, it's in the past, deal with it and move on. Dwell in the present and focus on the Now. On to the next decision.

Decision making is tough, but these my steps are tested and proven to ease the tension and ensure you make the right decision. 

That's it from me for now. 

Always remember, "DON'T STRESS, FINESSE."

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