HOW TO BUILD AND MAINTAIN A STRONG EYE CONTACT (+one surprise)

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HOW TO BUILD AND MAINTAIN A STRONG EYE CONTACT (+one surprise)
What’s up Gentlemen, I’m Emmanuel from Teaching Men Everything and welcome to another blog post. Don’t we all just have that one friend that gets any girl he talks to, nails any job interview he goes for and gets the job, and is able to speak in front of any crowd size without showing fear and we just wonder how he does it? Well I, your unpaid Life Counselor, I am here to spill his secrets. He has something we call a Strong Eye Contact. 
Whether he was born with it or he mastered the act, he has the cojones to look anyone in the eyes and just talk to them without showing any bit of nervousness, even if he is shaking in his boots. As you can see from the title, TME is here to give you tips on how to first build, and then maintain a Strong Eye Contact. In this post, I will show you four things:
1. What Eye Contact is
2. Reasons why people avoid it
3. The benefits of a Good Eye contact, and
4. Rules and tips for achieving a good Eye contact. (+one surprise)

Eye Contact, as defined by the TME Institution, is the action of looking at another human in the eyes and talking or listening to them. This can be used to show boldness or dominance, build attraction, and ensure trust in just a few seconds and is one of the most important ways of giving a good first impression.
 
People avoid eye contact for various reasons:
1. They have a disorder: This is called the Social Anxiety Disorder, and if you clicked on this post, I’m sure you don’t have that.
2. They are Shy and Lack confidence.
3. They are liars and they cannot look into your eyes and lie, except they are chronic liars.
4. They are uninterested in what you are saying at the moment.
5. They straight-up don’t like you: If you don’t believe this one, try talking to a girl who does not like you. (That’s if they’d even answer) 

These are the benefits of keeping a Good Eye contact:
1. It signifies honesty: That is why people say “look into my eyes and…” because they expect you not to be able to lie while looking into their eyes.
2. It makes people remember you: if you keep good eye contact while listening to someone, they tend to remember you when next they cross your path again.
3. It builds attraction and trust: Keeping good eye contact with someone while engaging in a conversation builds attraction between both of you, makes them trust you and even look forward to seeing you again.

Below are 10 tips on building and maintaining a Strong Eye contact:
1. Establish eye contact immediately (if you can): When you meet someone you are going to want to lock eyes while giving a firm handshake, or immediately after a hug. This symbolizes dominance, confidence. If you are able to pull this off, this instantly sends and Alpha Male signal, and there is nothing manlier.
2. Maintain a 50% / 70% eye contact: This simply means while in a conversation, a 50% eye contact is advised, while 70% eye contact is advised while listening.
3. When speaking, observe 5 seconds gaze and 3 seconds break: This means when you are talking to a person, lock eyes for five seconds, then look away for three seconds. Repeat these to lower the tension both in you and the other person.
4. When listening, observe 10 seconds gaze and 3-4 seconds break and also give an assurance like nodding your head in agreement to aid effective communication.
5. When you break eye contact, don’t look down: When you break the gaze and then look down, this shows that you shy and have low self-esteem. What you want to do is look a little to the sides of the person’s ears.
6. When you break eye contact, don’t look at your phone: This is straight out disrespectful and shows that you are not interested in the on-going conversation. If you meet someone and your phone is in your hand, tuck it in your pocket.
7. Slowly look away when breaking eye contact: When you want to break the eye contact, slowly move your eyes from the person’s eyes. Not doing this implies nervousness on your path.
8. Take note of your eyebrow movement: When you lock eyes with someone and your eyebrows are squeezed, even if you are not, your eyes send a signal to the person that you are pissed off and angry, if that makes sense.
9. Practice eye contact improvement on the mirror, with your family, friends and especially strangers. Practice makes perfect.
10. When talking to a crowd, move and adjust your gaze through your audience. Don’t fix your gaze on just one person.
Before the surprise, I forgot to add this and I didn’t want these tips to pass 10, so let me just put this here. Please take note: All these tips will not be effective and will send a creepy awkward signal if you forget to BLINK while maintaining your eye contact.
Now for the surprise, if you want to make your friend uncomfortable when making eye contact, look at the bridge in between their eyes really hard for a long time. This makes them very uncomfortable and also causes light-headedness.  
If you made it to the end, I really appreciate you, you are a real Gentleman. Really follow these tips and I promise you, you WILL get the best results.

That's it from me for now. 
Always remember, "DON'T STRESS, FINESSE."
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