FATHERLY PIECES OF ADVICE EVERYONE NEEDS TO HEAR.

FATHERLY PIECES OF ADVICE EVERYONE NEEDS TO HEAR.

There is no doubt that the presence of a Father Figure is something that everyone needs to have in their lives. Regardless of if it is your biological father, adopted father, guardian or even male role-models you consider as Father figure, every man needs someone to occasionally show them tough love and give pieces of advice that pierce right through our hearts.

What’s up Gentlemen? I’m Emmanuel from 302 MEN, I hope you are having a good day and welcome to another interesting blog post. 

It might not be exactly how your father figure will say it, but I promise to show some tough love to you in some of the pieces of advice I give you here, and I hope you see something that will change your life and make you a better person. If that sounds interesting, vamonos.

1. Family always comes first: Family always comes before everything else and as such, your family should always be protected and never be put in harm’s way; And above all, just like Mulan, you are to bring honour to your family’s name.

2. Treat everyone with love and respect: Everyone you encounter, regardless of their age, status, gender etc. should be treated with love and respect. There is a popular quote that says “Respect is Reciprocal”, no words have ever been so true; If you want love and respect, you first have to dish them out and in turn, you will be showered with more love and respect than you initially gave out.

3. Be Humble: This is very similar to my former point. If you are filled with pride and always feel the need to brag because you were born with a silver spoon, you were born with certain skin colour or you have certain privileges that very few people have, you will not see the need to show respect and love to other people not in your category. But never forget, even Kings fall. This should not be your main reason to be humble, but always remember that if you treat everyone with disrespect and disdain, it comes around to bite you where it hurts.

4. Show people how to treat you:

Now that you have checked yourself on being humble and treating everyone with love and respect, it’s time to show people how to treat you. If you are the people-pleasing type that always needs validation to be yourself and let people use you as toilet paper, you will one day be used to wipe someone’s shit. Never be afraid to express yourself when you are being treated in a way you’re not comfortable with, never be afraid to call people to order when they disrespect you. Show people how you will like to be treated now, to avoid many problems in the future.

5. Be Generous:

Whether or not you believe in the Bible, you can’t deny the fact that It holds the best quotes in the world. One quote says “A generous person will prosper; whoever refreshes others will be refreshed.” In one of my favourite books, Rich Dad Poor Dad, Robert Kiyosaki in almost every chapter emphasized on giving. He said, “whenever you are in short of or in need of something, give out what you want or something similar to what you want first, and it will come back in buckets”. Now, I’m not saying you should attach something to what you want to give when you want to give, I’m saying when you generously and genuinely make someone happy, happiness will naturally find its way to you.

6. You are Unique:

A close friend of mine once said, being human is a superpower. If you look at it from that context, being human and being you makes you one in seven billion. You’re pretty unique; but guess what, so is everyone else. Knowing there is only one of you in this world should make you feel special. Special enough to make you believe you can achieve anything you set your heart to do, but not too special that it gets in your head making you feel you are better than everyone else. As you find and showcase what makes you unique, always remember that the person sitting next to you also is unique and has something to offer and if you want to be treated specially, treat everyone around you how you’d like to be treated and watch it come back to you.

7. Smart work always beats talent: The actual quote is “Hard work beats talent anytime” but come on, look around you, the Bill Gates’s of the world did more smart work than actual hard work to get to where they are today; that is why I say “Smart work beats Talent when talent refuses to work smart.” If you think you can take on someone that regularly thinks of and creates an easier and more effective way to get something done just because you were born with a particular talent, wake up my brother, you’re still sleeping. You want to conquer the world, work smart, work hard, sprinkle a pinch of your talents and the sky will be your point of view. 

8. Always have Backup: No one gets all happy and giggly when a project they put a lot of effort and probably capital in fails; it sucks but, it’s not the end of the world. What is tragic though is putting all your eggs in one basket and said project still fails. No matter how promising a plan seems to be, always have plans b, c and possibly d just in case your million-dollar plan falls short. If it ends up pulling through, congratulations; and hey, you now have three new projects to embark on (former backup plans b, c and d).

9. Find new Joys:

Working according to a particular routine repeatedly is bound to become monotonous; so in the face of a routine, create new things that give you joy. While going about your job, school or a daily routine, you start to lose interest and feel as if you were being forced to perform said routine. To spice things up, find things to include in that routine to make it interesting once again; I often feel unmotivated as a content creator to create blog posts and Instagram carousels, but I added a couple of things like listening to music while I work or rewarding myself with some Netflix after I complete a series of tasks to my routine and by that, I feel motivated while working and I know I have a certain reward waiting for me when I’m done. Add what you like to do for fun into your work to create motivation and make your routines worth looking forward to.

10. Make good friends:

Iron sharpens iron. As unaffected as you might be by the effect of peer pressure, you can’t deny the fact that good friends keep each other motivated, and the pressure of having bad friends will push you to be someone you know you aren’t. This has to be one of the most if not the most valuable piece of advice here on this list. The kind of company you keep has the power (regardless of if you are willing to admit it) to assist or destroy your path to becoming the man you want to be.

11. Forgive and try to forget: We all mess up, we’re human. Whether your friends forget your birthday, you partner forgets your anniversary, you said some dis-heartening things to some undeserving people out of anger or -whatever, forgive. Forgive yourself and forgive others -preferably before they actually apologize (if they actually do) and as hard as it actually is, try to forget. Grudges and beef weight a lot on a person’s heart, so even if it’s for your own mental well being, forgive and try to forget.

12. Apologize: Just as you have been offended and hurt by people, you will also offend and hurt others knowingly and sometimes unknowingly. Always acknowledge when you hurt someone and endeavour to make amends. No one is perfect, but it takes a man to be humble and apologize for his mistakes. You might think of this as blindingly obvious and easy, but you’d be surprised how many so-called men actually try to make amends with the people they hurt.

13. Relax, Superman: You don’t have to be strong all the time. I know this contradicts what you were thought growing up, but it’s okay to shed a tear when you feel heartbroken. There is nothing more masculine than a man who knows how to take a break from work and spend time with his family, and a man who can get up and carry on when brought to tears.

14. Life’s a Bitch: Your dad might not say it exactly like this, but I’m not your dad, I’m your big brother and so, I will say it as it is- Life is a Bitch. Life is not fair. Things will not always work out your way; it doesn’t work like that. You just have to deal with it.

15. It’s the little things: Happiness isn’t only found in major wins like buying a new house or car and getting your dream job, it can be found in little things like the smell of a new book or fuel, throwing a crumbled piece of paper in the bin in one throw and trashing your opponents in a game with its difficulty se on its hardest. Don’t be too focused on checking off major accomplishment on major accomplishments on your checklist that you forget to enjoy life a little.

With that, we come to the end of this blog post. I really wish you found a piece of advice or two to help you in your life’s journey.

Until next time, "KEEP CALM, STAY CLASSY, FINESSE"

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